Thursday, June 9, 2016
A new shelter aims to provide a safe haven for women who are targets of domestic abuse in some of Sydney's most affluent areas, writes Ashley Donnelly.
"I was lucky he hit me", Ms McAdams confesses bluntly. MORE
Tuesday, April 19, 2016
Tuesday, June 23, 2015
By pseudonym - "Maura"
Editor’s Note: This story was submitted by the Lovefraud reader whom we’ll call “Maura.”
To me dying in old age should be a serene peaceful experience. A time when one is surrounded and supported by loving family members and friends. However, when a sociopath spouse is entered into the mix those normal expectations can be thrown straight out the window. The sociopath will hijack the situation and you will be constantly blindsided. The sociopath will be relentlessness in preventing family and friends from being at the bedside. Instead of focusing your time and energy on the patient, it will be continually diverted to dealing with the sociopath’s latest havoc.
Grieving, widowed dad meets and marries wife number two (W2)
This story begins 17 yrs ago. Our Dad at the age of 64 had been happily married for the past 42 years when Mum died suddenly. Within six weeks of Mum’s death our vulnerable grieving father met a 67 year old woman who had recently moved to into the area from interstate. Dad’s greatest fear was being alone. In hindsight, we believe this woman had scoured through the obituaries in the local newspaper to find a suitable widow then hunted him down. Dad was a sitting duck.
Once she had ascertained that Dad was reasonably wealthy with prestigious connections he didn’t stand a chance. This woman was supremely confident, and claimed that she had been a Midwifery lecturer at a University as well as a trained Grief Counselor. She informed us that she had divorced her husband years ago because he was bipolar. MORE
Tuesday, June 2, 2015
From: Love Fraud
By Donna Andersen June 1, 2015
The sociopath behaves badly: Lying — and then lying to cover up the lies. Disappearing for days without explanation. Draining your finances. Cheating — and you have proof!
You are understandably upset. Justifiably angry.
Yet when you confront the perpetrator, not only does the sociopath deny, deny, deny, he or she says it never happened, you imagined it all, and you’re paranoid. In fact, you’re losing your mind! You should be committed!
You are so confused that you think the sociopath may be right. Are you losing your mind? MORE
Tuesday, May 5, 2015
Shannon Thomas, LCSW-S
I was recently contacted and asked to share my thoughts on how a Christian is supposed to deal with narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths. To some it may seem like an odd request but actually it isn’t at all. One area of my counseling practice is specializing in recovery from toxic relationships and believe me when I say that trying to have a normal relationship with a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath is anything BUT normal. The Hollywood version of how a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath behaves often confuses people and it is after much psychological abuse that someone comes to realize that they were in fact in a very toxic relationship. I think it’s important to know what these relationships look like and there is a great book called “Psychopath Free” by Peace. Here is a link to my book review – “Psychopath Free”.
The topic of how a Christian is supposed to deal with being in a relationship with a very emotionally unhealthy and unsafe person is important because it highlights many significant pitfalls. The reason this becomes an issue is due to the fact that biblical teaching is often taken out of context and used to justify and enable bad behaviors in people. For decades, women who were being physically, emotionally, sexually and psychologically abused by men in their lives were told by pastors that it was their duty to make it work at home and to cook better meals or do other tasks in order to please abusive men. This thinking has permeated church culture. Although nowadays no church in the country would allow a pastor to preach from the pulpit that domestic violence is acceptable, I assure you that individual pastors are still counseling female parishioners that they as women need to bring peace to the home. How do I know this is still happening? I often end up seeing these ladies for counseling. They walked into a pastor’s office with the problem of domestic abuse and came out with the same problem and another one added: it’s their responsibility to fix the abuse by being a better girlfriend, wife or daughter.
This history of placing the blame on the woman when abuse is present has contributed to some Christian women feeling as if they can not set healthy boundaries with men who end up being narcissistic, sociopathic or psychopathic. Now, I should pause here and say that I know men meet, date and sometimes marry narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths and the damage done is just as intensely painful for these men. The question asked of me was about Christians in particular and I do strongly believe that women have been taught to overlook and put up with abuse in ways that Christian men collectively have not. I could be wrong but it’s just my experience of being a Christian for over twenty years and having been actively involved in churches and previously on ministry staff. MORE
Tuesday, March 17, 2015
Grandmother, 63, on trial for stabbing husband, dismembering him, and keeping his body parts in Tupperware
From: Daily Mail
Prosecutors say Loretta Doyle Burroughs of Mays Landing, NJ, killed her husband in cold blood. Donna Andersen wrote the story for the Daily Mail.
By Donna Andersen For Mailonline
EXCLUSIVE: Photos of dismembered body parts positioned on a white sheet shown to horrified jurors as woman stands trial for stabbing her husband, chopping him up in pieces and then storing them in Tupperware containers
- WARNING GRAPHIC CONTENT
- Daniel Burroughs, 66, of Mays Landing N.J. was missing for almost seven years
- Loretta Doyle Burroughs, his 63-year-old wife, is on trial for his murder
- Chopped up remains rotted in Tupperware for seven years, court told
- Two plastic totes were wrapped in multiple layers of garbage bags to contain 'the strong smell of decomposition'
- Some of the bags contained scented dryer sheets and liquid air freshener beads
- Burroughs claimed her husband drove off to Florida with a younger woman
- Victim's suspicious best friend secretly recorded a phone call with the accused played in court
The skeleton of Daniel S. Burroughs, of Hamilton Township, NJ, was in pieces.
His skull, spine and ribs, all a sickly shade of yellowish orange, were positioned on a white sheet, somewhat near where they should be, except that none of the bones were connected to each other. Arm, hand, and leg bones were also detached.
The jury gasped as the photo was displayed on the criminal courtroom projection screen.
Burroughs had been reported missing on September 1, 2007. Almost seven years later, on May 17, 2013, his remains were discovered in two plastic boxes in the Ventnor, NJ home of his former wife.
Loretta Doyle Burroughs, 63, is now standing trial in Atlantic County, NJ, charged with the murder of her husband, who was 66 when he disappeared.